Me and My Babies (Ty is in the picture, just not visible yet)

Me and My Babies (Ty is in the picture, just not visible yet)
Me and My Babies (Ty is in this picture too...just not quite ready to see the world yet)

Wednesday, January 5, 2011

Only with pain can growth occur...


This is Jacob and my nephew Caleb (Jasen's oldest). Christmas this year was bittersweet. My grandma passed away on Christmas day, which was heart breaking. However, my brother and his family came home for the services, so we got to spend a few days with them which was unexpected. Didn't get to spend much alone time with them, but did manage to get some good advice from Lyn in the van:)

Today is Wednesday...gonna be a busy day here. Got up at 6 and started the school ritual...got everyone packed, and on the way. Picked up Jake Miller today for preschool...Jake Truelove was so excited. I think we'll make our weekly trip to McDonalds for lunch, then back home to finish up rice krispie treats, get baths, supper, and to Jake's preschool program tonight. Can't forget to go pick up Ava from school in the midst of all the other craziness...that just makes her day when mommy shows up at school:)
I had friend point something out to me...In all my life, when things are bad or emotions are running high, most people find it easier to dwell on the negative outcomes of the situation. No one is strong enough or courageous enough to wait for the good things to arise. I've decided that I am going to start focusing on the good sides of situations...not what they are or have been, but how can I help to make a positive outcome? Not necessarily the outcome everyone tells you is best, but what you feel in your heart and soul is right, then, live for the positives. In the worst situation, something good is waiting on the horizon. Everything happens for a reason and everyone comes into your life for a reason. I trust in that reason and make a conscious choice to make the best of the situations that I can. Negativity and condescendment tear people down and I don't want to be liable for doing that to another human being. If I feel like the choices being made are right or wrong, that is my opinion. Who am I to tell someone that what they are doing is going to be detrimental...I have not lived their life and they have not lived mine. I do not know the situation. I do not feel their heartache and misery. I do not know what risks there are for staying in their situation. GUESS WHAT? I have no right to tell anyone what they should or should not do in their life. My opinion is my opinion. I keep it to myself and pray for growth because only with pain can growth occur.

3 comments:

  1. Jamie it take alot of courage and strength to let us all know what is in your heart. You are right you have the choice to see what is positive side of every situation. Keep your head high and look for the goodness:) Btw we need to get together again...
    "More than that, we Rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope" Romans 5:3-4

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  2. This doesn't even start to address what is in my heart, but shaves the surface...just something I am thinking about...doing a lot of soul searching since October:) Have learned a lot about myself. We do need to catch up. Maybe Friday night we could do something with the girls and my kids or whatever...let me know

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  3. The bible teaches us right and wrong it's not an opinion, it's the word of the Lord. There is right and there is wrong go by no one's opinion but the Lord's word. Adultry is wrong, but it happens and can be forgiven, adultry over and over again, well I'm pretty sure is wrong, but it can still be forgiven. Search the word! Growth comes from your relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ!

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